I Need Help! Gay Catholics?
I just came to my parents almost a week that I am gay. At first I thought he was going to be okay, because the conversation was quiet and sad, and I am shooting outdoors. But my mom is really (and I mean REALLY) with intense Catholicism. In my opinion do not consider myself a Catholic, but I believe in God and Jesus. Is simply the set of rules, traditions, and fears that come with Catholics do not believe in. My mom is very intense in contrast with him. She thinks that his is a devil in me confused, or the devil himself is confusing me. I've been praying, and I went to confession and nothing has changed. My mom told me that I am offending God. I do not tell anyone else from now on. I should not be proud, because their is nothing to be proud. I feel like she doesn't want to be happy. I need advice from any other gay Catholics or people of Catholic families, how to overcome this? and how long did it take
I was raised Catholic, but I was not the traumatic experience they are having. My dad was a little more in touch with reality. However, I have had some experience in dealing with religious types, so here's my advice:
Beliefs such as your mother has on homosexuality was held in the framework of its profound personality. She does not easily show that belief. I would say the best course of action is to tolerate his for a year or so.
Understand the ignorance of their beliefs about homosexuality came from. Then you can see your arguments against it-so they are illogical. As you can see how all this is silly, and then they have little power over you.
Call your mom when she has free time. Both of you, go to the computer and go to youtube. Search for the documentary entitled "For the Bible tells me so" (It is divided into 13 parts, and therefore may take some time and patience). Be careful with it.
Remember, you can take time for your mom to meet their lifestyle and she can tell her some things later, and despite their beliefs. Only deep faith that has within it the time to accept that you really are, most parents are religious.
Not just talk about it around him. It is probably in the years to come around. Your best bet is to read books about their sexuality and enhance their self-esteem. Old enough to get out, then you can probably date guys and stuff. For now, I would give him some space.
She just needs more time to process it.
My brother went through the same thing.
We are Catholics, most of us kids then my parents.
My mom freaked out a lot!
She did not draft him, but he did try to give all these things to get drugs and the bad of it.
Took about 8 months to get through it, and, finally, is beginning to accept it.
Let him take time, get around it.
Good Luck hundreds.
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Uhm, a few weeks ago a teenager was asked the same question. And an answer was a link to a website for a help for your mother. Why not try to find the questions.
I do not remember who was asking the question.
eventually u'll find urself … be proud of being gay is nothing to be proud of the cause or U'VE but did nothing to parents and ur fighting 4 ur proud of urself
I am Catholic, but I'm not gay …
I do not know exactly how to help with this, but I know a place you can go. It is for Catholics and gays is a place where you can talk about concerns and give you the resources necessary to remain faithful to God, while being attracted to the same sex.
The people there are very nice and very understanding.
See this site to your mom too, that might help. I do not think it should be excorsised of demons, but also can help her, you can find help too. http://couragerc.net/